Do Abusive Men Change After Second Chance
If you give an abusive man a second chance in a love relationship, Will he change?
-He keeps calling me with different numbers asking me to give him a second chance, that he can’t do without me
-Is this love or obsession? he beat me up, he pushed me out naked, he had torn my dress
Can Abusive men really change?
“I’m Lorena 22yrs old, l have a 3 year old child from my previous relationship, Now i met this guy 1 year back n we have been in a relationship but last year we had some issues n he ended up beating me, he hacked into my Facebook account and posted stuff about me, sent my male friends messages telling them how i need money to feed my child that if they could sleep with me it’s fine with me , since it’s in exchange for money, he didn’t only stop at that, he told all his friends and relatives that i was a prostitute, where he was staying everyone knew me as a prostitute cause that’s what he told them, One day he even pushed me out of a moving car after all that he came to me and asked for forgiveness which i did cause my kid liked him n he too did, he had promised me no matter what he would never abuse me again and call me names so l gave him another chance , but just last week we had an argument over the phone he started calling me names, B****CH, whore cheap prostitute it was just a lot n he went n told friends how we are surviving cause of him (which ain’t true, my mum does everything for my kid n the little i get i too support) this guy just goes around tarnishing my name sending me msgs if i ever leave him he will hurt the thing that matters most to me which is my kid, have ended the relationship with him but he keeps calling me with different numbers asking me to give him a second chance, that he can’t do without me, he even made his mum call me asking for forgiveness on behalf oh her son, Now l am confused, my son likes him he kips asking about him , what should l do?… should l give him another chance maybe he will change this time or he will never change? and Please is this love or obsession??? (by the way when he beat me up, he pushed me out naked, he had torn my dress).”
Advise: – Abused Women
“Every human being has a weakness my dear mybe his weakness is abusing when he is angry but you must learn to tolerate that if you really love him words don’t kill just pay a deaf ear and give him a second chance and find ways of talking to him so that he can find a better way to resolve issues whenever you two have a fight. Another thing he might be just young and needs some time to grow and mature up I know no woman would withstand such a man but I know you can do crazy things for love.” – Wanyenze Lorna
Story shared by Lorena 22, on 93.3 KFM Facebook page
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